Pindah Rumah

Start from last week, we have busy with packing...packing...packing. Hari-hari packing pun rase cam tak surut2 barang kat uma tu....banyak rupernyer barang kat umah nih....ingat sikit jer...yerlah umah kecik...rupe2 yer banyak barang2 tersembunyi...hehehe...

Last saturday...kami bersihkan rumah...umi sapu sampah (banyak giler habuk..sbb baru lepas construction)...n abah plak mop lantai....
Zahra tinggal kat umah pengasuh...bawak abg afif n abg kiki jer (sbb pengasuh xbleh handle dak cerdas dua org nih)....so bermulalah activiti menyapu, mengemop, menyental, mengelap n menyapu balik (sbb lepas sema dah siap...hero lapo...makan kopok habis sepah balik umah)....
Membasuh umah yg1.8K sq.ft nih mmg mencabar key....especially dgn bantuan 2 org hero yg 'teramat' rajin....penyapu kena ader 2..mop pun kena ada 2...umi sapu sini..kiki sapu sana...abah mop sini...afif mop sana....nampak cam ok....tapi hakikatnya....berperang...huh...

Foto x byk amik sbb umi sebok menyapu n mengemop....umi sempat snap 1 foto anak2 tgh 'menolong'. ms nih nampak rajin sgt kan....tp bila kalih kali kedua...sorg dah masuk dlm baldi hijau tu...

and the rest foto lepas selesai...(sebab ms tu rehat time...sesi bersantai...leh ler nak belek tipon)....

Bersih tak lantai umah umi...hehe..ni baru jer lepas cuci..sblm bersepah kembali ngan kopok anak2...waaaaa

OK lah...nanti lepas nih umi up date ms pindah plak yer....n peh tu update pasal project2 umi yg dah dirangka dlm batu jemala umi nih....tgg nak di applikasikan jer....project aper??? tungguuuuuuuuuu

10 Things Not To Say To Kids

I really want to share this article that i got from kids reward chart website....it is true...

1. You should be ashamed of yourself /'Adik ni...buat malu jer lah"

Shame is a very destructive emotion often prompting intense guilt. Even if a child acts badly, it’s important to help them understand why the actions are wrong and that we all make mistakes we can learn from.

2. Because I said so/"Pergi buat tu...cepat"

Kids respond best to rules when there’s reason behind them. Spend a few seconds helping them understand why, so they see you as a respected authority figure rather than a dictator.

3. don’t care what you want/"Tak payah beli/bagi...(apa yg anak mau).."
Whether your son wants the latest Ben 10 figure or you’re stuck in a battle with your screaming daughter over a cancelled play date, you have probably uttered this sentence more than you think. However, it can show your child you don’t find their feelings important and in turn that they don’t have to respect yours. Remember, validating their emotions doesn’t mean giving in to their demands.

4. Give Auntie Agnes a kiss/ "Gi salam auntie"
You wouldn’t automatically kiss people you were told to kiss and the same goes for kids. Respect their personal space and allow them control over who gets their affection.

(this one I not agreed...I always teach my kids to respect olders by salam n cium tangan when they met them)

5. Why can’t you be more like…?/ "Cuba jadi macam....." or "Cuba tengok orang lain tu..."
Comparing children with a sibling or school friend often plants destructive seeds of inferiority which can create rebelliousness and sibling rivalry. Instead, praise them for what they do well and offer help in areas where they struggle.

6. Wait until your father/mother gets home/ " Tunggu abah balik dlu"
Not only can this instil a sense of fear in one parent but it’s a comment that shows you’re not in control of the situation. Passing the buck undermines your own authority and ultimately makes children question why they should listen to you in the first place

(I always do this...hubby help me...)

 

7. You’re the best!/ 'adik kan hebat"
Strangely, not all positive reinforcement is positive. Of course your child is the greatest but too much unspecific praise can make it meaningless: be specific.

8. There’s no reason to be scared / "apa nak takut"
Children’s ability to feel safe and communicate feelings is essential for their growth. So while you think you’re being kind saying this, you’re actually implying that their emotions aren’t valid. Listen and deal with their fears rather than discounting them.

9. You’re bad/naughty / "Kenapa adik ni nakal sangat"
It’s not helpful to label your child bad or naughty as they’re likely to believe this is who they are and try to live up to it. Try showing disapproval of the behaviour rather than the child.

10. If you don’t hurry up I’ll leave you/ "Kalau lambat, Ummi tinggal"
Planting abandonment issues in your child is not advisable. Kids don’t know you wouldn’t leave them behind and when of course you don’t, you create an empty threat. Have patience, realize children get distracted quickly and find calm ways to speed thing up.

Sometimes we know that we should not say those sentence to our kids...but sometimes it spontaneously out when we have lost control of the situations and of course our patient....I have realized, those word really affect their emotion...some times, they repeat the same words to others...imitate me...ok..ok...that my bad...bad impression to my kids and bad attitude to follow.... 

Ok ummi...start from not...my additional KPI...stop to use those statements....especially those words in ".." that I used to say...Ummi sayang anak2 ummi.....I dont want to hurt their small heart...every single day I am trying to be better mom....because what I did to my kids now will affect their attitute and behavior latter....

Umi always love U

Kijer..Makan....Makan...Kijer

Ni lah jadinyer kalau start wat research or kena baca journal/articles tuk wat report.... mulut susah nak berenti mengunyah...munch...munch...munch...

Sorry zahra...arini Zahra kena minum susu umi yang penuh dgn makanan-makanan yang x berkhasiat...

Cuti-cuti CYN 2013

Tahun nih kami x gi memaner mase cuti panjang CYN a.k.a. Chinese New Year. Sebabnyer abah dah serik stuck dlm jem 4 jam tahun lepas. Bayangkanlah kul 6ptg kuar rumah dr Sri Damansara, kul 10.00mlm baru smpai Behrang. Mane abah x berang kan. Last2 sampai kat tol Behrang abah pusing balik ke SD. 1/2 jam dah sampai SD...hahaha..xker giler namanyer tu...sian tok dah masak n tunggu kita balik. Erm....tu pengalama taun lepas. So tahun nih kita cuti-cuti kat KL jerlah yer anak-anak.

Sabtu (1st day cuti CYN)
Planning gi jalan2 kat KLCC. So, lps sarapan kami pun gi lah masuk KL. Mmg best, x jem langsung. Then sampai KLCC masalah nak cari parking plak dah. Pusing2 cari parking dlm 30 min xdpt gak so  abah kuar parking. Ingat xramai org. Pesallah parking penuh gak. Ingat xyah bayar parking sbb still less then 20 min. Tapi kena bayar gak. actually lagi mahal sbb public holiday key. Kuar parking abah trs balik umah. Sian anak-anak..derang dah xcited dah nak gi KLCC. Aper lagi, ngamuk lah masing2. Tak pe lah lain kali kita gi sini ok?

So memandang kan x dapat jln2..dan sema dah moody....ni jer gambo yg umi sempat snap...gambar cik Zahra dlm keta.

Malam plak, bawak anak2 main kat Dataran Putrajaya. 

Cik Zahra yg sedap tido time abg2 main.

 Gambar x clear sbb Afif n Kiki tgh excited main boomerang.

Mase ni pun mood derang xbaik gak..sbb xdapat bli pedang yg ader lampu warna-warni..mahal kot..pokailah abah nanti.

Ahad (2nd day of CYN)

Arini dah plan baik punyer. Kami gi Desa Water Park. Main air. Yuhuuuu... Nak cover balik plan yg hancus semalam. Punyer lah excited abg afif n kiki. Masuk jam 11.00pg kuar jam 4 ptg. Dah kecut sema okey. Umi semapat celup badan 15 min jer. Sebab jaga Zahra. So abah kena assist afif n kiki. Risau gak, expecially afif yang x tau takut nih. Ader ke patut, selamber jer trs terjun tempat dalam. Sib baik abah cepat capai tangan dia. Sib baik ramai life guard, boleh gak diaorang tolong 'pritttt'kan bila tgk afif xder org assist. 

 Tgk afif yang tgh excited. Memang x peduli org kiri kanan. Janji dia boleh berendam. Hehehe

 Abah yang dengan setianyer melayan karenah anak2. Skali2 abah yang terlebih excited.

Abg Kiki yang keletihan. & Cik Zahra yang excited sama tgk org main air. Walaupun Zahra tak main air, tapi still kena tukar baju sbb lenjun umi ngan abah dukung saya ngan baju basah...hahaha 

 

 Lepas 4 jam berendam. Kami nak balik dah. Tgk mata afif yang merah tu. Muka pun dah gelap 'Sunburned'. Tapi ada hati nak main air lagi tu. Makin x puas hati sebab time tu ader wave plak.

Lapo lepas bangun tidur.

Jom kita balik

Abg Afif yang keletihan.

Hari2 cuti yang seterusnya duk umah jer..sbb umi ader mission yang lebih penting. Packing2 tuk pindah ujung bulan nih...